There are others that are very good at saying ‘no’. These people are, of course, the no-men. While they prioritize themselves first and rarely self-sacrifice for a bigger cause, they also miss opportunities that would have served themselves and others. The no-men of the world tend to squash creativity and change.
To the no-men… You may think of yourself as a realist, but we all create our own reality. The more you say ‘no’ to dreams of change, the less the world will change. Slow down. Take a breath. Why ‘no’? Challenge yourself to find a creative solution to turn your answer into a ‘yes’. The key to the gates of heaven are yours, show us the way and we will follow.
So which are you, a yes-man or no-man?
To the yes-men… I ask you to share a story of when a difficult to say ‘no’ was really the right answer. Or times when you said ‘yes’ and later realized your error. Please try to put into words why it is so difficult to say ‘no’ to a friend. Maybe upon reading this you’ll practice some ‘no’s. Tell us how it goes.
And for the no-men… do you have any regrets that stem from a ‘no’ used too quickly? What would happen if you paused before your ‘no’ and use your creativity to make it a ‘yes’? Try it out and tell us what happens.
Ultimately, the right answer is balance. If you sense a pattern in your life, if you sense that the ‘no’s come easier than the ‘yes’s, see if you can make a change. It might take some practice, but their may be a dream waiting to find you if you can just find the right answer.